A while ago I promised I would write about bondage on a budget. We aren't all lucky enough to own a pair of handcuffs. I came across an antique pair in some snobby shop in Lynden, WA (the place with more churches per capita than anywhere) for cheap, but didn't want to give the satisfaction of purchasing anything to the lady who followed me around the entire time in the store.
Yeah, I don't look like money. Doesn't mean I'm going to steal.
Thats another story for another time though.
There are lots of things you can safely use to attach your lovers hands to the bed post, or support beam, or whatever else you have handy.
I personally prefer using discipline and self restraint to keep whoever is in my bed, on the couch, bent over the counter, to stay. It adds to the frustration/exictment of being stuck in this really interesting way for me. I just tell them not to touch me, to keep their hands here or there, and if they don't listen, I'll stop. I'll stop or I'll leave, or I'll hit them.
This generally works.
But sometimes it doesn't.
There are times when a person needs/wants to literally be restrained. These times call for more than sheer will power or dominance. These are the times were I turn to my handy collection of belts and ties. Ties are nice if they are silky, but they don't hold up very well against a lot of force. Belts on the other hand, specifically leather belts, can take a beating (as well as be used to deal out a beating!). I tend to figure 8 the wrists above a persons head, but there are tons of ways to use a belt. Get creative. Scarves can also be great alternatives, but i am going to warn you right now: duct tape is not your friend. It rips skin, its hard to use properly, and its not really all that fun. If someone isn't allergic, its alright over the mouth, but not to be used as a restraint. At least in my experience.
Always remember to leave at least room for two fingers between restraint and skin, while pressure is put against it. Keep scissors handy, or restraints less complicated, for emergency escapes and safety. Have a safe word, mine's 'Philadelphia' which is a longer word then most people are comfortable with, but its the first one that comes to mind. Don't let someone tie you up if you don't trust them, and always release your lovers if they request so (in a way that isn't intended to be denied).
Then there are times when its not just their arms you want to stop from wiggling. Sometimes, I want someone strapped to my bed. This I have to experiment more with, before I can give any sort of advice on the subject. I am open to suggestions though!
As always, play safe.
